What Are Typical Bridesmaid Duties?
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Let’s talk bridesmaid duties! Being in the bridal party can be a ball of intense bonding and fun! If you’re a bride-to-be wondering how much you can expect from your besties, then this week’s Wedding Planning Series installment has just what you”ll need to understand how your bridesmaids can support you. On the other hand, if you find that your friend or family member is getting hitched and you’ve been invited into the inner circle then expect exciting times ahead, know that in terms of the traditional duties it can sometimes take more than just showing up on the wedding day to be counted as one of the bridesmaids.
While of course each bride will have their own expectations, traditionally the bride-to-be should be able to rely on you from the day she becomes engaged, right up until after all is done and dusted at the end of her wedding celebration. If you’re the conscientious type, here’s a list of some of the traditional bridesmaid duties to be aware of to help you to be the best bridal party ninja that a bride-to-be can have!
Bridesmaid Duties Before The Big Day
- Right-hand (wo)man to the MOH – Wherever and whenever the Maid of Honour (MOH) or bride needs an extra hand, being ready and available to step in and help out with some light planning and possibly even emergency projects wherever possible would make you an awesome bridesmaid.
- Help plan and be present for pre-wedding parties –Traditionally, where possible, bridesmaid duties include bridesmaids helping plan and being present for all of the pre-wedding parties such as the bridal shower, bachelorette party or kitchen tea and the rehearsal dinner.
- Be on time, reliable and easy as pie – Come ready, on time and as a low maintenance pleasure to be around by assisting the bride and MOH where ever they may need your emotional and general support. It’s a bridesmaid duty that’s also just kinda common courtesy. 🙂
- Put on a happy face – Put aside your preferences and try to support the bride-to-be in all ways reasonably possible, for instance, by fulfilling wedding traditions that she’d like.
- Dress the part – Although you may be required to help select and sometimes pay for for your attire, hair and make-up styling, try to look the part by dressing in line with the bride-to-be’s vision and preferences for her wedding.
- Spoil the bride – Pooling your strengths, talents and bucks with the rest of the bridesmaids, you are welcome to spoil the bride-to-be with an memorable bridal shower or bachelorette party. Remember that you can create a special, heartfelt experience within your budget without breaking the bank, and a gracious bride should appreciate your efforts.
- Take pictures and don’t stop – Photos, especially candid ones taken during those moments building up to the Big Day, are priceless! Have your camera on hand at all times to document everything from the bride-to-be’s entire wedding planning journey to right up until on her special day. These pics will be such a treat for all of you to treasure after the wedding.
Bridesmaid Duties On The Day
- Play the part – Being part of the inner circle ideally means that not only should you should to be there on the day from start to finish if possible, but be aware that there are also traditions that you might be expected to follow on the day of the wedding, such as standing in the receiving line (if there is one) and being in the wedding photos. Check with the bride to see what she has planned.
- Look after the bride – Whether it is helping her to get dressed, where possible make sure she stays breathtaking all day long (tucking in the veil, fluffing her dress) for her pics, or helping her with anything she needs on the day. Try to have at least one bridesmaid staying close to the bride so that you can be on hand to help and support her. Toilet runs or anything unexpected that needs taking care of is where you come in.
- Tend to the rest of the bridal party – Younger members of the bridal party such as flower girls and younger bridesmaids may need a hand in getting dressed, looking good and not getting lost on the day, and could need your help.
- Dance when the music plays – Get the party started at the reception by being one of the first to fill up the dance floor after the newlyweds have had their first dance.
If you’re part of the bridal party, but are the chief bridesmaid or Maid of Honour, then look out for our upcoming list of Maid of Honour duties. Remember that nowadays most couples create their own rules, and some brides might expect none of the above, or the above and more. If you’re unsure, a good chat over a cup of tea or cocktails can help get everyone on the same page and make the experience a special one for all.
PS: Check out these 30 Totally Fun Wedding Photo Ideas and Poses for Your Wedding Party!